Earlier this summer, one of the leaders I’m developing said, “You seem to ask really insightful questions. How do you do it?”
Perhaps some of this is easier for me because I am curious by nature and can think on my feet fairly well, but you can learn to ask great questions. Here’s the secret:
Genuinely care about the person you’re talking to.
When you care, you listen.
When you care, you notice details.
When you care, you work to understand.
Don’t think about what you’re going to say next.
Don’t relate everything back to you.
Don’t look for opportunties to trump their story (you “Me Monster”).
And care genuinely. Not out of duty. Not to manipulate. We smell that a mile away.
Care because you really care. (You could call this “love”)
How can a leader cultivate genuine care when, honestly, he or she don’t really care about a particular person?
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